We are a happily married couple of 10+ years just looking to add a little spice to our relationship. We hate the term swingers and we hate the term cuckold. We'd prefer to use the term "sexual explorers". Anything we do is absolutely not meant to be degrading or demeaning to either partner! Any sort of group sex (MFMF, MFM, FFM) is not meant to be a competition of any kind. It is meant to be pleasurable to everyone involved. You are never going to find us at any sort of backyard swingers party. We plan to do everything discretely and online before meeting. We have discussed this ourselves a lot and we have setup strict rules and guidelines, but we are fairly open to anything that stays somewhat close to the heterosexual line. I am not lesbian/gay and neither is my husband. We are committed to make this happen, and our profile pictures are meant to show the finish line here. But we warn you that we are going to be picky, and the journey to get there is going to take some time. More experienced couples/individuals will be frustrated by this. Preferably we are looking for another first-time couple and/or someone who is also new to this like we are. Things that are non-starters for us: 1.) Anyone overly aggressive or not adhering to our rules 2.) People who have any sort of STD 3.) Any sort of arrogance or douchebaggery 4.) Anyone selfish or jealous. This has to be about “we”, not “me”. 5.) Anyone who refers to themselves as a “bull” 6.) Cheapskates 7.) Ungroomed chest hair and pubic hair (men and women) 8.) People who don’t exercise regularly (we are rocking some mom and dad bods ourselves, so you don’t have to be perfect, but you have to be taking care of yourself) 9.) Catfishers and fake profiles 10.) People who are deliberately cheating on their significant other and don’t have their consent 11.) People who don’t read our whole profile

My Ideal Person We would prefer couples or individuals who are:
1.) Comfortable in their own sexuality
2.) White, 36-44 in age
3.) Who will take things slowly and let us get comfortable
4.) Nice and welcoming
5.) Who ask permission first and always honor/obey the word no
6.) College educated
7.) Have a sense of humor and a sense of *humility*
8.) Exercise regularly
9.) Clean and groomed
10.) Non-smokers
11.) Looking to explore like us, and let their freak flag fly proudly in the bedroom
12.) Will make the women the center of attention

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Light Bondage, Role Playing, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet

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