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Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
11/15/2019 12:13 pm

Sexy LEGS!!!!


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
11/15/2019 12:14 pm

....I was burned on on line dating years ago. I do not expect much from being on-line


letsdaytimefun 46M
23 posts
11/15/2019 12:31 pm

I do enjoy a good "connection" with the person I am meeting with. Most of the time there seems to be a "pressure" to want to meet and greet asap... I just find that the more you do get to know about the person - the better it is in the long run. At-least that's how it works for me. I'm not into the whole shuffle my partners like I shuffle a deck of cards. I actually like to know what makes my partner "tick" and that's the Joy I get out of it all.

Comfort levels are key, normally something that takes time for some to adjust to.

I've met some from here, they turned out better in person vs their pictures. Not all attitudes were the same persona as their online one's. More shy in person, not as straight forward. Understandable though. Other's I've traveled an hour and a half to meet up with --- and they must have had cold feet or what have you... also something that comes with the territory of online hookups.

I have no problems when I am in public with offers --- I get along with everyone I meet - just being in a small town, I have to refuse it. Rather have my fun in other cities to avoid everyone knowing my business.


sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
11/15/2019 12:33 pm

The only way to have any degree of sanity while doing online dating, is to have ZERO---NO--EXPECTATIONS--WHAT SO EVER.

Even after a phone conversation or two, you just never know exactly what or who that person is.

Just saying !!!


12211male 60M/54F

11/15/2019 12:41 pm

The dates I have been on went well, be that for a drink or something a little more private..Luckily I’ve only had one date from hell, and I’ve also been stalked, scary, not funny.! I have few expectations, simple to enjoy the other’s company, some have worked well, some we just didn’t connect..Sadly a few woman are serial daters, just looking for a free dinner and drinks..


scoupe42 60M

11/15/2019 12:42 pm

My friend, there are many who have high expectations. And many more who believe in Fairy Tales, but I don't hate, because these are the same people who would give 110% in their relationship.


Solfan55 69M
500 posts
11/15/2019 12:53 pm

As I read your post I began to think about the 54-40 song Ocean Pearl. I've met a couple of women from Fuck Mates but prefer not to kiss and tell.

Play a little kiss and tell with poison pills
bitten in the valley of thirst, the body kills
i got an ocean pearl
i see an open world


Story435 76M
3791 posts
11/15/2019 1:13 pm

Hello Joy!
The ones I have met of here in person was what I expected and so was I what they expected all was very good!
The pics and the chats we had was right on line with them.
The first meet I was just happy they didn't lie about them self.
Did have sex with 3 of them and it was awesome!
Butch


justaguyinalaska 57M
879 posts
11/15/2019 2:23 pm

My workaday life is spent in the business world, where *expectations* are defined and memorialized in binding contracts. In my relationships I try to avoid harboring *expectations* (although I am human and thus not always successful) and focus on *aspirations*. My aspirations are progressive: friendship, trust and then intimacy. Each of these relationship *milestones* provide their own intrinsic rewards and fulfillment. If progress *stalls-out* along the way to intimacy, I am always able to look back on positive accomplishments and thus am rarely disappointed when *on-line* gets *real*.

*Things* (especially people) are NEVER what they seem. On-line personalities (and their more opaque and solicitous possibilities) only exacerbate this (at times) uncomfortable truth. With the exception of fraudulence and/or safety issues, I am abiding of exaggeration and hyperbole. A face-to-face encounter may deflate my interest in intimacy (or I may similarly disappoint) but we can still drift apart with a lingering friendship.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
11/15/2019 2:42 pm

I've been surprised... a few times.
I WON'T... just for the SAKE of it. I'm not that needy. 😊
I mean... there HAS, to be 'something' ... NO?
Yeah... whatcha gonna do, right?
People slightly... exaggerate... sometimes...


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
11/15/2019 3:10 pm

Well this w s addressed "So gents" but I have to tell you I am more cautious than perhaps the average person. I have been stalked from here and I have met some true liars, one of whom got to wear my beer. The only expectation I now have is Tell me no lies the rest will sort itself out after a few conversations

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gentlemale49 74M

11/15/2019 3:22 pm

What you see on my profile is what you get in person. If I'm lucky enough to be able to meet, I want you to know what you're getting before hand. No surprises-Truth in advertising.


stopbyandsayboo 52M
1295 posts
11/15/2019 6:15 pm

I enjoyed reading that post... I myself developed a online friendship that was based on honesty and trust...When we met the chemistry was there when our eyes met. We were honest about who we were and what we wanted,. Yes we both were attracted to each other but our connection was much deeper then the physical attraction... The best advice I can share is take your time and get to know the person before you decide to take the next step and meet,

JUST ME A TALL PASSIONATE MAN WITH A HUGE HEART


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
11/15/2019 8:38 pm

Hi Joy

thanks for taking me further with the title from a fave read of mine by Charles Dickens

So gents : That sexy lady online who you connected with above all others, and finally met offline, Was she what you expected? the two women I have met face to face from this site were exactly what I expected, nothing more, nothing less

Were you, what she expected upon that first meet? I think so

Did the pics, the personality, the chemistry equate over and you got more than expected? I don't feel entitled to anything for free. So, we got what we wanted to share

What did you expect on that first face to face, if they lived out of town, out of province, out of State or out of country? I always expect to understand first, and, then see what happens

If they were not what you expected at all and lied about everything and that includes their age and their body, did you still fuck them? I haven't been intimate with a woman on the first meet since college. I always treat my luv making as "firsts", so it must be special, or it's not worth it for me

where would all of my mini-me's go? I can't let them swim into oblivion or somewhere that they are going to be ignored

made me think of this one

Lauren Jauregui - "Expectations"

Up in bed, all alone
Wondering where you've been
Ten past three
I know the club closed at two A.M
I've already been through about seven scenarios
'Bout what it was that changed your mind
Knowing very well that you told me you'd come home
And it happens every time
Wish I had no expectations
I wish that I could get it through your head
With no confrontation
I really wish we could talk about it instead
All these tears that I cry while I'm turned to the side
And you're in the same fucking bed
Wish I had no expectations
But I expect, you expect, we expect

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sweet_VM 65F
81699 posts
11/15/2019 10:27 pm

All correct here. Why post a picture from 20 years ago and then meet up? Who know what they are thing of. Be up front honest and your meet will go well. I always say get the person on cam so you know who they are. You will not have any disappointments. Good post here Joy. hugs V

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pacnwlover42 55M
9808 posts
11/16/2019 1:22 am

I made an out of town trip to visit a woman years ago and the plan was for us to have lots of great sex all weekend. Unfortunately, when I got to her house it was a real mess and she was a heavy smoker, 2 things I didn't know about her from getting to know her online. Live and learn.

Funny women are incredibly sexy!


johnnydoesall69 53F
14 posts
11/16/2019 1:26 am

Hard to argue with that.


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
11/16/2019 12:24 pm

I've never just met someone on a whim here (sometimes I wish I could). I do like to get to know the lady to see if their is potential both ways.


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
11/16/2019 12:31 pm

I don't see the point in lying about who you are or look like,, unless you are never going to meet anyone and it's an online fantasy, My pics are from good angles.. but my profile states I am "ample" body shape, and I always make sure that they know i'm on the larger size.. I would be mortified if I met someone and they were expecting a size 10 long legged blonde ... and got me


Imthatgirl1122 42F
1835 posts
11/16/2019 3:23 pm

hi Joy, most of the guys I met online so far they are looked like in the pics they sent...thank god haha.
apart from some guys that actually stood me up or posted me...not even sure if they were real or no.


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