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seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
6/16/2019 11:41 am

Well I couldn't believe my luck when I first joined, lots of men wanted to meet me... I soon found out why! and it wasn't for my blisteringly funny personality I did meet one man who I was with for 10 years, we moved in together, but he preferred drink to me, so it was bye bye Jose!
I think women have more success on here, because of the sheer number of men, but it depends what you are looking for,,, yes this is a sex site, and if you just want sex, then you've hit the jackpot, but for anything ongoing, you've probably lucked out! ... I wouldn't mind a regular FWB, but weekly not, as you say 6 monthly!! ... but I would prefer a relationship.
I met a man 3 years ago,he rings me about 3 times a week, we see each other twice a year if I'm "lucky" and he considers himself "my lover" PAH!! I don't think so!!
I do have "one night stands" that want to meet again,.."because I was great" .... but don't want to commit to anything else... errrr that's a NO from me then!


whiskywoman 76F
65 posts
6/16/2019 11:53 am

women have it easier ive met scads here until recently and that is cause of age and circumstances in family if you are looking for forever after a fuck me sight is wrong if you want that go to one of those shitty smarmy sights where there are no dirty pics

thing is women on here pretend they wanna meet but they don't ive created profiles for male friends and sent thousands of invites ....so many the site made us wait two days to send more and got a handful of responses


AnewWoman 65F
273 posts
6/16/2019 12:02 pm

This site has surpassed my wildest dreams of fulfilling my sexual needs. And like you I wanted ongoing FWB relationships with one or more weekly, not as you put it, 6 monthly. I live in a small to midsize city. Nearly everyone I met from this site was local and we maintained an ongoing relationship of some degree or another. I cut them loose when I began a true relationship, in my case, with another woman. Another thought is your description of a man willing to be somewhat patient with pressure free conversation is exactly the type of man I sought and found here.


NiceNnaughty524 61M  
2 posts
6/16/2019 12:16 pm

I definitely feel that women have the advantage. As stated above, there are so many men on here that it is difficult for an individual guy to stand out from the masses. Also from what I've heard here and elsewhere that there a a lot of jerks out there that make even harder for the rest of us. I will say, though, that I've met some women online who were dicks (pun intended) too.

I haven't researched the numbers to know if it's true but it seems like the majority of people on the site are looking for a single female, the "unicorn". Men, women, and couples are looking for single females which puts them in demand and also gives them the opportunity to be much more selective.

Yes there are people who are only looking only for couples or men or women but those are the minority.

What I've seen on other more local sites is that there is often single male bashing most events do not allow single males to attend. I understand the need to keep numbers equal and not be overrun by a lot of guys showing up and overwhelming the event, plus to also weed out jerks. It doesn't give a guy a warm fuzzy feeling.

These comments are all coming from my male perspective and I don't have experience with what women on here go through. I'm sure women experience their own problems and issues here and it's not all fun times for them either. I'm just putting in my two cents from a male perspective.


yours_n_mine 66M  
131 posts
6/16/2019 12:28 pm

BiggLala, Thinking as you said in "general" I would say men have a higher success rate here on Fuck Mates than the women.

Why I say that is from my experiences is that men will take "any port in a storm" per se for sex. Since being a member I dont know how many profiles I've seen that states the male member is straight., but they will contact me (In my profile I state that I'm bisexual) and ask in one way or another to give or receive sexual contact. Especially those traveling to the OKC area, or staying with family/friends in the area.

As for seeking others personally for sex, or my free photography offers. Since I'm in no big hurry and nothing to prove to myself or to anyone, so if after months of chatting off and on. I call it a win to finally meet another member.


LakeRidgeBBWSeek 63M
3847 posts
6/16/2019 12:31 pm

I found when I 1st joined back in '99, yeah, I have been here that long, that I got lotsa results and quite a few meetings, and a good bit of funn too. Then I moved in '05 to STL, and was a member of a large regional swing group, and that supplied my wants & needs without much reason to resort to Fuck Mates, BUT, I still did find a few in my area that I met, and well.... then I moved to NOLA in '06, and OMG, tween this site & a few others, I was kept very busy indeed, and was introduced to the regional swing groups & clubs too. THEN I got married for my 3rd time in '09, and open marriage, lol, we met in a BDSM club ! We both played for the next 5 years, seperately, never together outside the BDSM club, and in '14 we got divorced. Fuck Mates as well as CL were my sources for partners during those 5 years. After we split, I moved to DC, where I went to Fuck Mates & CL again as sources, and CL did better than Fuck Mates, but both worked for me. Then, in '16 I got on the road, and Fuck Mates & CL both kept me happy as I crossed the country, and when I got HERE, I found CL was better than Fuck Mates, and now that it is gone, sigh, Fuck Mates isnt filling my dance card. But, I am getting a bit to old to play like I did 10 years ago, so am not missing it that much, but would prefer better results than I am getting. So, overall, it has been ok over the last 20 years, but CL was really better while it was available.


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
6/16/2019 12:35 pm

    Quoting whiskywoman:
    women have it easier ive met scads here until recently and that is cause of age and circumstances in family if you are looking for forever after a fuck me sight is wrong if you want that go to one of those shitty smarmy sights where there are no dirty pics

    thing is women on here pretend they wanna meet but they don't ive created profiles for male friends and sent thousands of invites ....so many the site made us wait two days to send more and got a handful of responses
Most of the men on here are on those "shitty smarmy sights! [sic] they are on here wanting NSA and on the other sites, looking for "the one" so that's a load of crap for a start.
If you have to write profiles for friends, then they are clearly not up to the job, and the fact that you sent "thousands of invites" (I assume you mean friend requests) isn't helping them either, why would women accept a friend request from someone they've never met?! except the friend collectors who have no intention of meeting anyone anyway!


gardenboy321 60M  
41936 posts
6/16/2019 12:38 pm

Put it this way, I believe I would have had better luck if I had spent all these years in a monastery.

Thoughts from the Garden...


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
6/16/2019 1:00 pm

It's doubly hard for me to actually meet anyone here now. I have health issues (mainly joint problems) which recently caused me to stop driving.
I have met women in the past and enjoyed the company but they were all long distance. I've attended blog meets in the past, but again..long distance.
I still genuinely think that it is easier for men to have more success here than women.


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
6/16/2019 1:17 pm

In general ..
I believe women have an easier time simply because the man:woman ratio is in our favor.
I believe men have a higher success rate in meeting because women seem to be less likely to ghost someone.
As for better experience - I don't think that can be generalized by gender.

Overall, I've had a successful time here, with several long term FWBs though my success seems to go in waves and I'm currently struggling to get out of a trough.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
6/16/2019 2:06 pm

Seems that statistically there are more men than women so the answer is fairly obvious.

From blogs, emails and conversations with men, they mostly say they have a tough time actually meeting a woman here, even getting a positive response to an email or IM. Sure the ratio of women to men make a difference but I think this is often because they get here assuming it’s a sex/hook up site (Why?!? Maybe because it is advertised as one.🤔) and since they came here assuming the women were all here for mainly sexual encounters like they are. They fail to realize that even if women are interested in nsa sex, they are not interested in having it with just anyone or everybody that contacts them.

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japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
6/16/2019 2:51 pm

i would say, it's easier for women to get attention, because of the ratio of female to male...

but yah...from there, it's actually get harder for women, cus you know, what good is it to get worthless messages day after day...and even if there are few got your attention, and get your conversation going, to determine their quality is not easy task...

i had a time we were gonna actually meet, and then he stood me up and ghost after...well...i failed to see the actual quality in him...

bottom line is....if you are patient, this site works like intended...but if you don't have that...well...it's not for you...


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
6/16/2019 2:58 pm

I hate to generalize about anything, but I would guess that women find it easier to make an initial connection (solely due to ratios) but find it more difficult to establish a relationship that meets their goals/desires.

Case in point, I do very poorly on vanilla dating sites, but get plenty of attention here. When I first joined I was newly out of an LTR and thinking that maybe it would be good to just get my sexual needs met for a while instead of jumping into trying to find "the one". And I did indeed meet a good candidate for that pretty quickly. We had a great sex connection, but I quickly realized that he talked too much about himself and that I wasn't interested in driving 80 minutes round trip to his place for 40 minutes of sex!

He was very busy with two jobs and competitive sports, so not really interested in spending 'non-sex' time together. Fair enough and I can't say he deceived me.

So I thought I could find better, because of all of the emails flooding my inbox. Eh - not so easy.

After that first situation I can think of three more relationships that became ongoing and included some "non-sex" time together. One lasted six months, the next one five months and then the guy totally ghosted, the last one was four years but long distance and so we only saw each other once every couple months.

Sorry for the novel, haha!! I think everyone's story is a bit different thus the difficulty in generalizing. Most people would probably think that finding three guys who more or less met was I was looking for, is a success story but they should realize that I've been on the site since 2005!


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
6/16/2019 3:00 pm

P.S. Also I agree with you that a guy who presents himself nicely here (not too crass) and is interested in what you speak of, a true FWB situation, should be able to do smashingly.


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
6/16/2019 4:26 pm

I think meeting someone is easier for women, but having a successful meeting is easier for men. The former is due to gender ratios, the later due to expectations.

I think I've been fairly successful. Initially I met a decent string of local women. They all petered out for a slew of reasons (and really not a rejection of ME, but external factors). With the local pool somewhat depleted, I began to fish in places I visited, and the blogger-babes. THAT has worked quite well!

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pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
6/16/2019 5:22 pm

I don't have a clue as to who has a better success rate on this, or any other, site. I know I manage to meet people. Considering I'm a standard member and don't have a picture posted, I've still managed to meet a number of people. It hasn't even been that long ago that I met someone. Unfortunately most of the time, that's all it is....a meet. They turn out to NOT be what I'm looking for. As for the last one...he was not only younger than what I'm looking for, but I really don't want to be around someone who's going to try to manipulate me at every turn and guilt me into doing what he wants. If I'm going to take a trip, it damned sure won't be a guilt trip!

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Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
6/16/2019 5:22 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    P.S. Also I agree with you that a guy who presents himself nicely here (not too crass) and is interested in what you speak of, a true FWB situation, should be able to do smashingly.
Yep... I'm playing it as coyly as I can. Imagine that!😗
It doesn't take much HERE ... to Make it happen...
Wry sense of humour?
Biting wit? 🤔
Mildly intelligent 🧠
Self depreciating appreciation for this whole space?
Yep...
naw... what do I know? 😔


lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
6/16/2019 6:05 pm

I also agree with most that a woman has a better chance because of the ratio of men to women. I joined out of curiosity, even at my age a bit naïve, but soon learned that there was something here of interest to me.. I am a very patient person and live in one of those areas where there is a lot of people and the site "says" there are a lot on here from my area. Not being in a big hurry, as I have learned over the years that "hurry" most likely is more costly. But after several years I had some very good "results" ( not luck) . Can't say that I think it was easier for me or a woman, but with patience and a bit of respect it does work... Good post Girl, thanks

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Livin_my_Life14 53F

6/16/2019 6:41 pm

I’m not sure it’s easy for anyone to meet. It’s a needle in the haystack to find and trust someone. I’m sorry to say but we live in scary times. I have found a few nuts. There seem to a lot more bi - men as well. I am an Alpha woman so that makes it difficult.

I just hang out here at the blogs. Makes life easier to just be a voyeur!


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
6/16/2019 7:07 pm

WOW ! ! ! You’ve rambled 10 (at last count) questions into one.

First, 2 mentions in one ramble. I’m either honored or have gas . . . ahhh . . . never mind . . . it was gas.

Second, your question is full of words that can have a variety of meanings.
“easier” “better” “success” These things can have meaning that often depend on the gender of the reader. But that is a whole other rabble, err I mean blog.

Third, as SAW mentioned, I am generally not fond of generalizations. But I will toss up some word salad anyways.

Tres was wise to point out that “men and women have challenges here, just different challenges. Not sure if one side has it harder, because obstacles are there for everyone.” This applies to just about everyting on theses sites.

As other women have mentioned, I agree that women generally have an easier time based on the M to F ration. So, in theory, they can choose from the herd of guys seeking their “goods”.

Better and success depend on each other to define and are too individual to generalize.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


nite_axn 39M  
63 posts
6/16/2019 8:01 pm

for women of course


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
6/17/2019 1:37 am

Been here since 2003 but not continuously - had a few breaks from the site for various reasons.

I had very low expectations of the site when I joined and those have been met - if I think I'm not going to meet anyone and that turns out to be true, then I'm not going to be disappointed.

Over the years I've made a few online friends from the chat-rooms and had one regular FWB which lasted for about a year (we met on average once a week) before she decided she wasn't interested any more.

I think the site works better for straight women - "free" membership, much more choice given the M/F ratios.

Baffies

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Daytimer09B 55M
901 posts
6/17/2019 6:20 am

What I came here for first was curiosity. What I found was a lot of fake or not serious about what they say female profiles. If it weren't for the blogs I would have left and never come back. I met (internetly speaking) many great women in the blogs though none were nearby. I did end up getting to meet a few who I become blogging friends with and they were genuine but not my attraction type. We simply met for lunch or dinner when I was in their areas. I did meet one woman who was real from profile and not blogs. She was amazing but was only needing a couple time fling to get her over a dry period with an attachment. That was fine, I am left with incredible memories which I would never want to forget. I left for several years only to come back and find out that most, almost all, of my lady friends from the blogs had already moved on. Now, I try to not get to caught up here as I find it more of a time waster that keeps me from getting my job done. That's my honest opinion plus...a I think the scammers, the rude and crude guys, and the female teasers only have ruined this site for those who are really seeking for something better.


flowerkings2012 60M
4312 posts
6/17/2019 7:32 am

I think it is better/easier for women, as long as they have a decent BS detector

I can only judge by my own experience here of almost 7 years, and I find myself totally with you on your ideal on here of a couple of strong decent lng term FWB with fairly regular contact

I also like to think I am fairly patient when it comes to chat and respect and lack of pressure on women, but I would coutner your assumption that it makes it easier/better for that kind of guy to do well on here. Not my experience, although I have had some experience (and continued friendship) with one of your followers

Given the amount of men on here throwing themselves at women (often crudely) it should be easy for patient smart women to separate wheat from chaff and get a meaningful membership on this site


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
6/17/2019 12:12 pm

Great question hun and it's hard to say honestly. You know it can go both ways, as I wasn't in any hurry to find anything here actually but it took me over seven years to find the one I thought was the one, but alas it wasn't. I have been more of a match maker here over the years introducing members to one another and a couple of them got married and still are today.

I think if members want to find a long lasting relationship they should take their time and get to know one another, unless your just looking for a quick fuck then I would have to say its much easier for the ladies as it all hinges on them pretty much. I hope you have a great day hun..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
6/17/2019 1:36 pm

I would have to say that I have been successful in the past with attaining my goals. However in the past few years, I have not. This is mostly due in seeking that which I seek which is not the norm for this site. I have used similar approaches on other sites that I used here, and the successes have been about the same. The reason I haven't found anyone of late is more due to me, rather than the slim pickings out there locally for me. Just my two cents.... *grins*


FresnoWoman 53F
883 posts
6/17/2019 3:39 pm

I have found it doable to *meet* guys in person from this site. I haven't kept track but in the last couple of years I've met 8 different men, plus shown up for 3 more who flaked on me. This is after weeding out all the online contacts who immediately say "wanna fuck?" in the first IM, the ones who are polite but definite that they don't want more than NSA, the ones who turn out to be married or have a girlfriend, the ones outside my stated age range, the ones who display or send dick pics.

Out of the eight, I found only 2 with which I was at all interested in getting physical. In both cases, the slight connection fizzled due to insufficient chemistry or patience. So have I gotten laid from here? Not yet, because I haven't met anyone who was willing to establish at least a friendly and ongoing connection.


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
6/18/2019 4:49 am

"...because I haven't met anyone who was willing to establish at least a friendly and ongoing connection."

What FresnoWoman said! IMO the man who can do this will be the most successful in meeting people. Funny how that just doesn't seem to happen. The majority of the men I encounter here either have no interest in actually meeting in person, sex talk is all they want, or they want to meet without taking the time to develop even the most basic connection.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
6/18/2019 3:40 pm

Oh.... puhleez... lol 😂 Ya don't want my pov. 😊 I'm as casual and 'full of it', as 'they' come.
And what works for me, won't work for others. It's about being true to yourself and sifting thru the debris.
I don't have much stuff cluttering my view. You (women), r being harassed daily.
Just shine... someone will notice YOUR sparkle. Look for theirs?
How about that person.. who knows how to read. 📖
You know exactly... what I mean! 😐
You're a sapiosexual , kinda girl... no?
Anyway... I don't really know who or what you're looking for. 😊
What r u doing wrong?
You're in HR... you know people. U know the answer to THAT Q... 😊 👍


dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
6/18/2019 3:48 pm

I guess I have had success here, in that I did meet several men from here for ongoing fwb for short periods of time. No longer what I am after, so no new success lately but that is ok.


GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
6/19/2019 3:43 pm

I would have to say that I have been successful in the past with attaining my goals. However...
Quoting Lala: -Yep, I stopped at 'However' because, as I said to someone else...your response is typical of what I encounter with a lot of men here...even when they 'claim' no one wants to meet, as if to imply they've never met ANYone...EVER. What they mean is...no one wants to meet NOW. Uh huh...riiiiiight! Yes, I know you said it's mostly due to your reasons as to why you haven't met anyone in the past few years.

I wholeheartedly disagree with your comment about 'Me'. I am not a RFN type of guy. I want to meet you first and get to know you to see IF we are compatible or not. I am not a One and Done/Bye guy either. It's too long and hard a process to find someone who meets my criteria so when I do so, I hope it lasts for a long while.


GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
6/20/2019 5:54 am

Yes I have been successful in the past, however as of late I have not come across anyone who meets my criteria. My choice, not necessarily the sites, but truth be told, this site has had very few 'new' members locally so perhaps it is just getting 'old' and need to reinvent itself.
As far as RFN: Right Fucking Now..... *grins*


Unzipmeslow50 55M

6/20/2019 1:51 pm

You bring up some good points Bigg. I've had good and bad. Sex and no sex
Met a few more than once....bit to be honest always felt awkward and fumbled

Maybe not found the right one yet( 15 yrs of trying lol) anyway don't give up but have fun along the way xx


traveljunkie13 56F
11089 posts
6/21/2019 9:24 pm

I think men have it easier than women. And I think it's mostly due to what you said in another post...men just need a warm wet hole, women need to have their mind stimulated. So all a man really has to do on here to get a woman willing to meet up with him is not be a complete asshole when he contacts her.

Given that it's really kinda that simple, I'm always amazed at the amount of men who fuck it up with their very first message. I guess it's because some of them really do think of us as nothing more than a wet hole.


yanksfun 42M

6/23/2019 9:02 am

Both I think though it varies for both


redhotfun4you2 61F  
1596 posts
6/24/2019 3:43 pm

I joined, the first time, just shortly after my 50th birthday, so 6 years ago. I did take a year off when my father was sick before he passed. I wanted to experience a few fantasies I've had for years and to see if I could meet anyone with similar interests.

Now I must also point out that I live in an area where there is a large group of "lifestyle" people or at least much larger than I first anticipated. So yes I have been successful in meeting people who have assisted me in exploring a couple of fantasies and I have also made some amazing friends along the way.

I do have what one would call a FWB, I suppose. We get together once or twice a week (no, he is not "Cabana Boy") and scratch each others itches, so to speak.


thax013 46M
1089 posts
6/25/2019 8:53 am

Being in an open marriage for 10 years. I think I have a more unique perspective. I am looking for FWB, meaning light conversation every so often, meeting up regularly like 1-4 times a month. My wife is looking for the bad boy, hot, single encounters with men that will treat her like an object. I do believe that she would like a FWB though.

I crunched numbers around 8 years ago. I had talked with 12 women, and had met up with 4, 3 became long term FWB for years until they either moved away, or developed a serious relationship with another. My wife on the other hand, has talked with hundreds, and ignored thousands of guys, she has meet up with over 40 guys. Three got into that FWB semi status. One with regular meet ups, until he fucked her sister. Two others that were nothing more than phone sex partners. One for 8 years.

She kept getting frustrated at this site for guys that would fuck, demand to meet again in a couple of days, and then ignore her for weeks, only to call back months later, with these three standard questions (in order) who is this? Pictures? DTF?

We attempted to keep our meet ups semi even, once I was over 30 meet ups behind, we laughed and gave up on that.

Most women, upon hearing me say that I am married, immediately end our conversations. Which I respect. The few women that ask questions, ALL of them want confirmation from my wife that it is ok. Either by me calling her on speaker phone, or them private messaging her. Meanwhile, not a single guy that she has either talked to, or fucked, has ever wanted any proof from me, many even attempt to break us up.

My conclusions. Most guys want a one night stand. Either they are in a relationship and want a one shot on the side, or they just want to take care of their horniness. Most women want something more than just sex, rather an emotional connection, closer to FWB.

Due to the differences of what most guys and gals want ... expect from here, makes this extremely difficult to determine. My experiences were extremely good for years. Hers were extremely satisfying for single days, and often emotionally painful for just as many days.

Visit my blog if you want to at thax013 and thank you very much!


Fukaboutit70 53M/38F  
15 posts
6/26/2019 1:17 pm

Definitely understand but I think woman should have it easier. If you have an open schedule, open-mind and no respect for your own body, you should be able to find sex very quickly. I would rather be way more reserved and if it happens then it happens!

Love to love you


thax013 46M
1089 posts
6/27/2019 6:42 am

Oh no. I could not meet women to save my life for around the first 10 months, zero interest in me. It was not until I got established in my location’s chat room and blogging that I started getting interest. Even then it was only from people 50 to 300 miles away. All while my wife was ignoring 30 plus local men a day. I think our worst difference in meeting up was around 64 to 0, and that was only because she was heavily holding back from meeting up. Otherwise it easily could have been over 300 to 0.

Most do not have the patience, emotional support, or desire to get through that initial rejection phase. Many times I just wanted to just give up.

Once I got my first FWB, then the rejection and ignoring were easier to overlook, and eventually more connections were made.

Visit my blog if you want to at thax013 and thank you very much!


bilaan63 73M

6/27/2019 8:41 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    WOW ! ! ! You’ve rambled 10 (at last count) questions into one.

    First, 2 mentions in one ramble. I’m either honored or have gas . . . ahhh . . . never mind . . . it was gas.

    Second, your question is full of words that can have a variety of meanings.
    “easier” “better” “success” These things can have meaning that often depend on the gender of the reader. But that is a whole other rabble, err I mean blog.

    Third, as SAW mentioned, I am generally not fond of generalizations. But I will toss up some word salad anyways.

    Tres was wise to point out that “men and women have challenges here, just different challenges. Not sure if one side has it harder, because obstacles are there for everyone.” This applies to just about everyting on theses sites.

    As other women have mentioned, I agree that women generally have an easier time based on the M to F ration. So, in theory, they can choose from the herd of guys seeking their “goods”.

    Better and success depend on each other to define and are too individual to generalize.
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IVFalternative 52M
630 posts
6/28/2019 9:21 pm

If we are counting only people meeting for one on one heterosexual encounters there is an equal number of successful men and women but a much larger number of unsuccessful men.

I think the guys that succeed in meeting women don't work that hard but think it through better. The guys that don't succeed probably work very hard.

If we are counting everyone gay guys probably have it easiest.

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IVFalternative 52M
630 posts
7/2/2019 12:35 am

BiggLala replies on 7/2/2019 2:49 pm:
Yeah, see...I'm going to disagree on the "...equal number of successful men and women..."


Each one to one heterosexual meeting involves one man and one woman, each equally succeeding.

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CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/6/2019 2:31 am

I actually looked this up a while ago and found a study where they compiled data from all dating sites and found that in order to give themselves a 99% chance of getting at least one response a woman had to send 25 messages to men. While men had to send 114 messages to give themselves a 99% chance of getting a response from at least one. Those are numbers for one response and not dates. That correlates with my personal experience. This shit became a second job for me that's why I stopped. I wish some women would open a account as a man for a month to see what it's like.


NEEDTXFUNN 50M

7/8/2019 6:20 am

I would have to agree with the math, 896 kabillion men to every 1 lady.
Easier for women i would suppose.


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
7/8/2019 3:23 pm

I am just here to Blog. Great question though!


Wedobad69 39M/35F

7/10/2019 2:39 pm

I would day women. Mt hubby and I have a couple account and men are always hitting me up. I've had to explain we are a package deal.


wackerpp 53M
256 posts
7/11/2019 4:40 pm

I think you have captured it really well. Due to the sheer number it is easier for women to meet someone. But getting what you are looking out of that meetup I think guys would the winners there.
I am not very good with words, should have stayed at school !, so it is extremely hard to get the ladies attention with a quick message. I do not blame the ladies, the sheer volume of contacts they get I can see why they would be careful and filter the dumb guy with a dick for a profile pic.
I have met some great smart people here, mostly in blog land and most of them live far away from where I am at but I love chatting with them. If I found someone similar close to me I would love to hangout but I guess I have to fix my insecurities first


jeffgodown 50M  
15 posts
7/15/2019 1:19 am

Well said my lady
- "Be yourself, everybody else is already taken"


donaldstill1973 50M
38 posts
8/17/2019 11:43 pm

" Most men's frustration here is dealing with scammers, et. al. Most women's frustration here is dealing with real live men. You do the math. Scammers are easy to detect and avoid."

Oh please, do tell!

I am new here, and still just looking around. I have not reached out to anyone yet.
Any tips for determining real vs fake would be welcome.


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